Confidence Shift

 The “every girl needs....post, video, blog”. You’ve seen them. My question to you is... but ‘do you?’ I’ll be the first to help you see the answer is “no”. When it comes to personal style, it’s not possible for “every girl to need ___”. Why? Because personal style is.....PERSONAL.

Here’s a flip that has created the biggest transformations in style and confidence mindset in women I work with that has allowed them to not just showcase their authentic selves with what they wear but to deeply own their space in the world and the outcome they give others; Every girl needs...purpose ATTACHED to their personal style.

Huh?

Yes. Knowing the reason why you get up, get dressed, stand out from the crowd, voice a new opinion, put your hat in the ring, risk being misunderstood is the key to aligning what you wear with your beautiful purpose.

It’s not just about what is cute this season if you want to Dress In...

 “My Jeans Don’t Fit!” There was a time this would have sent me into a body-hate tailspin after a vacation.

There was a time I would have let the number on the tag define how I loved or loathed my body.

There was a time I would have punished myself with joyless exercise and deprivation-style eating to “get back into” my jeans.

Those times no longer exist for me. Those times and the depression that followed are what led me to what I do for women.

No woman needs to go through life with that kind of short ups and low downs about her body. After I healed and learned to see and accept my body for every stage, age, ability and through any vacation or regular life, I developed the part of my Hue and Style® process that helps my clients start a new relationship with their body (in heart, mindset and practical body dressing knowledge deeper than simple “fruit shapes”) even before I teach them all about how to curate their authentic style...

Quiet. Shhhhhhh..... you can’t hear yourself if you’re listening to everyone else.

I used to listen to a lot of voices that weren’t my own. I had a belief running rampant that if I wasn’t ‘out front talking all the time’ than what I give wasn’t as valuable or important. Wrong (of course). I’ve got a roster of extraordinary women I’ve helped built on this ‘apparent quietness’ to prove it.

I’ve learned and embraced that when there is power in the silence and intention in the solitude, there is time for focus and new creativity. There is also opportunity and space to develop more so that what you do give when you step out to be visible is the deepest, most authentically powerful version of a meaningful outcome possible.

It’s a freeing shift but takes courage to make it and discipline over time to practice it.

So, shhhhhh, go quiet. The world is loud and ranty. That will never fill you up even if it sounds...

It's a sacred time for me - the journal swap day. It's the time when one finished, and another begins.

Mike Posner's song "Move On," said it best, I think:

"Beginnings always hide themselves in ends."

Positive shifts in any part of your confidence come as a beginning from an end. The value in the change - the joy or pain in it - rests in perspective you create around it.

I like to attach positivity to an end is with a new journal.

The one I am retiring today has about 40 empty sheets left. I never let that bother me. When that book's season is done, I'm done.

I also like to make my last entry very intentional.

I take the time to thank the journal for carrying me through the season of the book, and then I let it go.

My new journal pretty much nails where I am in my head and heart as I start my new "personal year" that begins on July 1. (I'm not a January 1, kinda girl - too much pressure.)

Do you mark your beginnings with ends? Do you celebrate it or move through kicking and...

Mother Nature has seasons. You have seasons to your life. Flowing with them can feel like a crazy transition but look on the bright side, firstly, you’re not alone, and secondly, you can learn to navigate them when you know how to use them in your favor and define what is the most important time of your year - for you.

It took me a long time to learn this gem of a lesson.  For most of my life, I was an achieve-at-all-costs-type-A barreling through every season of life.  It wrecked me and sent me straight to depression.   When I saw that my life, work, business, relationship - everything - had seasons, I felt freer.  

Here’s what I learned:  

Your definition of success determines your seasons.

There are six definitions of success I work with my confidence mindset mentorship clients, and I’ll tell you, only one is money. I’ll also tell you that most women don’t care about a pile of money, they want it for different...

I believe in Personal Alchemy.

Alchemy is the ability to turn something “basic” into something more “precious.” The idea is usually reserved for the turning of metals into gold but for me, it’s helping my people turn a self-doubt-laden, obligation-driven life into a personal growth-powered, purpose-filled journey. To me, that’s Personal Alchemy.

You see, you’ve got your own “periodic table of elements” - your talents, your gifts, your message, your voice - that when combined with rock solid, authentic sureness-of-self can make your life joyful, happy and successful exactly as you define it for those you serve.

When you know how to use your personal alchemy - rooted in a growing, evolving confidence - you can create anything, touch more and change more lives. It all starts with how you see yourself, Gal. I don’t believe in “faking it til you make it.” The magic of who you are gets lost in that notion....

In this bonus episode and to celebrate the finish of Season 1 of the Confidence Shift Podcast, I invite my special guest, Delaina Parker, to join my Confidence Shift Conversations.

We dove into how she used her Hue and Style image confidence journey with me to first see herself differently, and then to crush the self-doubt villains that were crippling every part of her life. She uncovered how she rediscovered her gifts and passion as an educator and is building a growing business helping families learn the keys to confidence + connection.

Delaina shared: 

• How she went from overwhelmed, stressed-out, “angry, yelling mom,” convinced she was doing everything wrong raising her kids to a confident, connected, purpose-driven woman on a mission to change the confidence of moms and kids everywhere.
• Why the most impactful way to build your kids confidence skills is to lead by example and embrace a confidence journey centered on shifting your own mindset,...

In the Season 1 finale, Michele dives in deep into two things you need to create any change that moves you to your next level of success.  They are elements you probably haven’t considered and may be actually holding you back from more if you don’t know how to use them in your favour. Tune in as all the lesson of the season collide to help you see why your purpose, image, identity, mindset and actions need to collide in the right way to fill your life with success and joy as you define it.