The Blog by Michele Charles Gustafson
“My Jeans Don’t Fit!” There was a time this would have sent me into a body-hate tailspin after a vacation.
There was a time I would have let the number on the tag define how I loved or loathed my body.
There was a time I would have punished myself with joyless exercise and deprivation-style eating to “get back into” my jeans.
Those times no longer exist for me. Those times and the depression that followed are what led me to what I do for women.
No woman needs to go through life with that kind of short ups and low downs about her body. After I healed and learned to see and accept my body for every stage, age, ability and through any vacation or regular life, I developed the part of my Hue and Style® process that helps my clients start a new relationship with their body (in heart, mindset and practical body dressing knowledge deeper than simple “fruit shapes”) even before I teach them all about how to curate their authentic style...
Quiet. Shhhhhhh..... you can’t hear yourself if you’re listening to everyone else.
I used to listen to a lot of voices that weren’t my own. I had a belief running rampant that if I wasn’t ‘out front talking all the time’ than what I give wasn’t as valuable or important. Wrong (of course). I’ve got a roster of extraordinary women I’ve helped built on this ‘apparent quietness’ to prove it.
I’ve learned and embraced that when there is power in the silence and intention in the solitude, there is time for focus and new creativity. There is also opportunity and space to develop more so that what you do give when you step out to be visible is the deepest, most authentically powerful version of a meaningful outcome possible.
It’s a freeing shift but takes courage to make it and discipline over time to practice it.
So, shhhhhh, go quiet. The world is loud and ranty. That will never fill you up even if it sounds...
I believe in Personal Alchemy.
Alchemy is the ability to turn something “basic” into something more “precious.” The idea is usually reserved for the turning of metals into gold but for me, it’s helping my people turn a self-doubt-laden, obligation-driven life into a personal growth-powered, purpose-filled journey. To me, that’s Personal Alchemy.
You see, you’ve got your own “periodic table of elements” - your talents, your gifts, your message, your voice - that when combined with rock solid, authentic sureness-of-self can make your life joyful, happy and successful exactly as you define it for those you serve.
When you know how to use your personal alchemy - rooted in a growing, evolving confidence - you can create anything, touch more and change more lives. It all starts with how you see yourself, Gal. I don’t believe in “faking it til you make it.” The magic of who you are gets lost in that notion....
The most beautiful way to see yourself differently through the eyes of another who believes in you. Here is what happened to me.
In the last weeks, I’ve felt some old demons arise. I am not immune. I have dips too. Gratefully, I have a rock-solid way to turn the dip into a climb.
The cycle of dip-climb-soar happens over and over for everyone. No one can avoid it, but the most successful and fulfilled people have a way to turn feelings into understanding, understanding into resolve and resolve into action. It means you fold in and take time to see what life is teaching you. It means going quiet. It means stepping out of the noise to listen in the quiet of your own path.
We have a very particular kind of process in the #HueandStyle confidence mindset universe to reverse the dips. I’ve been working my process, and I always know I’ve turned my dip (“yellow to blue to green” reference for my GoalStyling clients) around when beautiful things begin...