The Blog by Michele Charles Gustafson
The “every girl needs....post, video, blog”. You’ve seen them. My question to you is... but ‘do you?’ I’ll be the first to help you see the answer is “no”. When it comes to personal style, it’s not possible for “every girl to need ___”. Why? Because personal style is.....PERSONAL.
Here’s a flip that has created the biggest transformations in style and confidence mindset in women I work with that has allowed them to not just showcase their authentic selves with what they wear but to deeply own their space in the world and the outcome they give others; Every girl needs...purpose ATTACHED to their personal style.
Yes. Knowing the reason why you get up, get dressed, stand out from the crowd, voice a new opinion, put your hat in the ring, risk being misunderstood is the key to aligning what you wear with your beautiful purpose.
It’s not just about what is cute this season if you want to Dress In...
“My Jeans Don’t Fit!” There was a time this would have sent me into a body-hate tailspin after a vacation.
There was a time I would have let the number on the tag define how I loved or loathed my body.
There was a time I would have punished myself with joyless exercise and deprivation-style eating to “get back into” my jeans.
Those times no longer exist for me. Those times and the depression that followed are what led me to what I do for women.
No woman needs to go through life with that kind of short ups and low downs about her body. After I healed and learned to see and accept my body for every stage, age, ability and through any vacation or regular life, I developed the part of my Hue and Style® process that helps my clients start a new relationship with their body (in heart, mindset and practical body dressing knowledge deeper than simple “fruit shapes”) even before I teach them all about how to curate their authentic style...
Quiet. Shhhhhhh..... you can’t hear yourself if you’re listening to everyone else.
I used to listen to a lot of voices that weren’t my own. I had a belief running rampant that if I wasn’t ‘out front talking all the time’ than what I give wasn’t as valuable or important. Wrong (of course). I’ve got a roster of extraordinary women I’ve helped built on this ‘apparent quietness’ to prove it.
I’ve learned and embraced that when there is power in the silence and intention in the solitude, there is time for focus and new creativity. There is also opportunity and space to develop more so that what you do give when you step out to be visible is the deepest, most authentically powerful version of a meaningful outcome possible.
It’s a freeing shift but takes courage to make it and discipline over time to practice it.
So, shhhhhh, go quiet. The world is loud and ranty. That will never fill you up even if it sounds...
It's a sacred time for me - the journal swap day. It's the time when one finished, and another begins.
Mike Posner's song "Move On," said it best, I think:
"Beginnings always hide themselves in ends."
Positive shifts in any part of your confidence come as a beginning from an end. The value in the change - the joy or pain in it - rests in perspective you create around it.
I like to attach positivity to an end is with a new journal.
The one I am retiring today has about 40 empty sheets left. I never let that bother me. When that book's season is done, I'm done.
I also like to make my last entry very intentional.
I take the time to thank the journal for carrying me through the season of the book, and then I let it go.
My new journal pretty much nails where I am in my head and heart as I start my new "personal year" that begins on July 1. (I'm not a January 1, kinda girl - too much pressure.)
Do you mark your beginnings with ends? Do you celebrate it or move through kicking and...
What I do for women is not for “fashion-hunters,” it’s for “impact-makers”.
I help women be noticed, be memorable and create a picture of total confidence for themselves and their public by teaching them to know every single detail about who they truly are, to rediscover their deep purpose and to present themselves for the lives they are creating.
It may start as I show them how to translate this refreshed spirit into a magnetically stylish image of presence that has people wanting to meet them, but it skyrockets when they 10x their own confidence and begin using that momentum to take action that changes their lives and the lives of those they serve, grow and love.
My process is no measly collection of “tips and tricks” is a juggernaut packed with one-of-a-kind proven personal brand marketing strategy, color psychology wizardry, evolving wardrobe framework, priceless personal growth, and an international support community of like-minded...
Mother Nature has seasons. You have seasons to your life. Flowing with them can feel like a crazy transition but look on the bright side, firstly, you’re not alone, and secondly, you can learn to navigate them when you know how to use them in your favor and define what is the most important time of your year - for you.
It took me a long time to learn this gem of a lesson. For most of my life, I was an achieve-at-all-costs-type-A barreling through every season of life. It wrecked me and sent me straight to depression. When I saw that my life, work, business, relationship - everything - had seasons, I felt freer.
Here’s what I learned:
Your definition of success determines your seasons.
There are six definitions of success I work with my confidence mindset mentorship clients, and I’ll tell you, only one is money. I’ll also tell you that most women don’t care about a pile of money, they want it for different...
I believe in Personal Alchemy.
Alchemy is the ability to turn something “basic” into something more “precious.” The idea is usually reserved for the turning of metals into gold but for me, it’s helping my people turn a self-doubt-laden, obligation-driven life into a personal growth-powered, purpose-filled journey. To me, that’s Personal Alchemy.
You see, you’ve got your own “periodic table of elements” - your talents, your gifts, your message, your voice - that when combined with rock solid, authentic sureness-of-self can make your life joyful, happy and successful exactly as you define it for those you serve.
When you know how to use your personal alchemy - rooted in a growing, evolving confidence - you can create anything, touch more and change more lives. It all starts with how you see yourself, Gal. I don’t believe in “faking it til you make it.” The magic of who you are gets lost in that notion....
Formality, not fashion sense, is the secret to always looking appropriate in any situation with your image.
Recently working with clients locally and far-flung, I showed them how garments with different formalities can send completely different messages about your presence. (Just 2 out of 4 here I used to teach this concept). I impressed on them why it is SO important to know your audience and to know what position you play in their minds and then how to portray it with the right garments, colors, and accessories. They saw how Hue And Style strategy has nothing to do with shopping for what’s trendy this season. Fashion is a tool to be used for image presence built on formality.
A couple of my clients are leaders in their church communities which means they need to look approachable yet powerful to their congregations.
Together with their personal color palettes and wardrobe strategy they could see how the people around them would see them...
In this bonus episode and to celebrate the finish of Season 1 of the Confidence Shift Podcast, I invite my special guest, Delaina Parker, to join my Confidence Shift Conversations.
We dove into how she used her Hue and Style image confidence journey with me to first see herself differently, and then to crush the self-doubt villains that were crippling every part of her life. She uncovered how she rediscovered her gifts and passion as an educator and is building a growing business helping families learn the keys to confidence + connection.